Women Empowering Women

Women empowering women is so important. There is so much power when we show up with a positive attitude, support each other as women, and cheer each other on.  This topic is so near and dear to me because I believe in it wholeheartedly.  In my corporate days, we taught the power of teams, relationship building, conflict resolution, mentorship, and collaboration (interestingly enough, it was a male-dominated audience with women as well).  

We Need a Community of Women Empowering Women

My experience outside of my corporate leadership and training days was and is all about women empowering women.  Personally, I have experienced both sides of this by being surrounded by the most amazing, encouraging women that are incredible. Unfortunately, I have experienced the ugliest behavior by grown women, and it is not pretty.  I always believe things happen for a reason, and I use those experiences to learn, teach and grow.  

Let me ask you this: are you the girl that fixes somebody’s crown when no one is looking, or are you the girl telling others about the crooked crown?  

The Fixer

She’s the loyal friend or colleague that stands by your side when things are good or not so good.  She has your back.  She genuinely is cheering you on and celebrates your wins. She comforts you and supports you when you are down.  She is authentic, positive, and speaks life into you and others—she has an open mind and an open heart. She cares. She is compassionate and understanding. She sees the light in your darkness, she sees you shine bright and is inspired.  She knows undoubtedly the power of relationships, loyalty, vulnerability, and grace, for she is grace.  

She’s the girl you can call, for a laugh, a cry, or a great conversation. She is your person. She is your tribe. The encourager, the down-player (calms you), the listener, the person that understands and the person that believes in you and see’s things in you that you sometimes don’t see in yourself.  She breathes life into you, in good and bad times.  

The Talker

She has negativity, even though she might be positive too.  She is judgmental and a critic. She does not see the best in others all the time. In fact, she looks for their weaknesses.  She is competitive in an unhealthy way and cares more about fitting in and looking a certain way than in the people that surround her.  

She bases life on accomplishments and perfection or she is complacent and is victim to circumstances. She gossips in a big way and finds faults in others so that she can hide behind them. So that no one sees hers.  She has deep jealousy, she compares herself to others too often and she is snide in her remarks. She cannot be trusted and puts her own interests first before supporting you emphatically.  Her weapon is the tongue, and she uses it to judge, to compare, to dismantle others (even in the slightest of ways).  

She has a lot of growing up to do, she has a lot to learn.  She might look like she has it all going on (in fact, she might be high performing) but she is weak. She is on the surface and she lacks the depth to be fully open-minded, fully present, and fully supportive and loyal no matter what.  Her language is strong and mostly negative.  Her body language speaks volumes, and her eyes, when no one is watching, are telling. She lacks wholehearted love, compassion, acceptance, and tolerance.  She has a lot of work to do on herself to be the fixer.  

Let’s all Strive to be Women Empowering Women

Not one of us is perfect. We are not always kind and positive or without gossip or opinions (hello we are human and women)! However, there are differences in the kind of women that interact, gather, and communicate. Women empowering women is vital. Our female power and strength lie in our ability to empower, support, encourage, and celebrate each other, even our differences.  

There is a saying that says “when Sally talks about Suzie, that says more about Sally than Suzie”.   Don’t be a Sally.  We are raising generations of girls that need role models. Perhaps kindness before strength would be the direction to go in.  

We are all Queens in our Kingdoms, but the true leader and Queen is the one that shines beautifully from the inside out.  Be the woman that fixes another woman's crown while no one is looking.  Choose your court (tribe) wisely. Surround yourself with the fixers - the girls that no matter what you do, say, or experience are there for you, supporting you and cheering you on!  Let’s be women empowering women. XO