You Are the One You Have Been Waiting For

I don't know who needs to hear this, but I know we all need to be reminded of this, and I invite you to stand up in your power, and that is authenticity and love (because fear holds us back and keeps us small), love is always the answer.

Love is......

Building a relationship with yourself, yes, it is becoming your own best coach, cheerleader, friend and person.

It is the ability to turn down the noise around you, what others say, do, and the constant info in this digital world—your answer does not exist on someone else’s page or reel. The answer exists within you, which requires you to stop searching, chasing, comparing, pacing and to let go of that energy and embrace your magic, the energy of you.

There is not a course, a coach, a company or a community that can save you or be the next big thing, you are the big thing, and it is in the small things that we create change. Positive change is not about always being positive or never feeling fearful, it is about going there and recognizing it, and taking responsibility to shift and choose love.

You are the one you have been waiting for.

Being able to discern this will be the breakthrough you need to step into living authentically and finding your voice, not her voice.

Let programs, people and things inspire and support you, but don't let them be bigger than you. Trust the wisdom inside, trust the voice that knows you and believes in you and surround yourself with others that encourage you and believe in you too.

We hold such power in the way we speak to ourselves, navigate our life and how we see ourselves in the world. We are human, and in that, our default is to be hard on ourselves or to be hard on others, and this is most likely old thinking, beliefs or behaviors that just need to be processed in a more positive and productive way. We also tend to "should" all over ourselves. I should be doing this, I should be able to do that, again, we will hand our power over to expectations of others or what has always been (and perhaps our old ways of thinking).

As much as we say not to do this, we do it, simply because we are human.

It's okay, it is part of how women (and men) have lived for years and years... What is not okay is when we let this be the way we live and we don't change or don't become aware of the important role we play in the relationship we have with ourselves.

Talk to yourself like you would encourage a young woman or child, imagine the loving words you would hear each day. Stop trying to fit in, you were not mean't to do that, you were mean't to stand out. Understand that not everyone is going to like you, get you or treat you kindly.... You can't change them, you can only change how you proceed and who you show up to be each day. Also, it is not your job to please everyone, once we get that, we get more space, time and freedom to be in places that are good for the body/mind/soul (it is a feeling, and trusting this is a way to develop discernment and trust in yourself. This is not hard to figure out, you just have to be in touch with yourself, your vision, your values and develop this trust in yourself, your intuition and wisdom. You intuitively know, it is a feeling and rather than try and get everyone on board (impossible), let go of others, let them do their thing and you do yours, and the right people will be by your side.

Your spirit holds so much power, be present with it, and rather than numb it away, invite it in.

Our worthiness or “enough ness” comes from within, it is God given and it is also part of our DNA, it is in you. Even so, we can look outside of us at times for validation, and then we question ourselves and in that, give away our power.

Am I enough?

Did I do enough?

Will they like me enough?

Have I performed enough?

Is this enough?

The Super Woman BS has to go…. We can be powerful, we can be impactful, we can be ambitious but also, we can be truthful with the unrealistic expectations we create and the bar we raise when we are This is coming from the girl who strived for years. Hard work is important, as is performance to some degree and having vision and goal setting is key....

However, none of it matters if you are not true to yourself.

It will not help you be happy. We need to give ourselves and each other permission to exhale, permission to not perform, permission to be vulnerable and powerful, because we are both. It’s okay to rest, it’s okay to retreat, in fact, it is what brings us back to balance, and when we are in a state of balance (feeling grounded) we feel more at peace. When we feel more at peace, that is where we feel happy, joyful and it is creating more space to feel, to experience and less time performing and pushing, which is not a healthy lifestyle, we need balance, and we need our nervous system and coping mechanisms to be supported, in healthy and mindful ways.

When we step out of the race, and let go of the pace (keeping up with others) we honor ourselves, we honor each other and we honor what it means to create a life you love, not an imitation of someone else’s or the expectations you feel you must meet.

You've got to get to know what lights your soul on fire. You've got to really get clear on what you want more of and what you want less of in your life. You've got to get brutally honest with yourself, and lovingly, guide yourself toward what your body/mind and soul is telling you (not what you see on line)—this is not over night work, this is intentional, wise, introspective and daily work, small steps, simple shifts and building a strong foundation, a grateful heart and positive mindset (not to a perfectly positive mindset, that is not real life).

Cultivating and reframing how we live...

You don't "have" to do anything. You just have to pause, get curious, get clear on your vision and values, and build from there. Faster is not better. Humility is, as is vulnerability and honesty.... That does not mean we need to focus on our fears or insecurities, it just means we all have them, we all have our strengths and weaknesses and the compassion we have for ourselves and others, the better we will pave the way for the next generation. So how do we achieve, or create or get better, yet do less? We rewrite the rules, we discover more about ourselves, we ask questions and we listen to the voice within. We get to know what inspires us, what heals us, what helps us, and we are brave enough to create that, not what we think you want us to be. We create a better relationship with ourselves, and we commit to this relationship as a priority in our lives.

Stop doing more.....

Pause. Breathe. Exhale.

Do what brings you joy....

yes, I said it and I mean it.... design your day in a way that you feel aligned with your best self, your best self is love, she is hope, she is cheerful, she is authentic—she also is quiet, reflective, needs support and time for restoration. She also is whole: meaning she has her strengths and she has her challenges in body/mind/spirit, we all do.

I know we want to numb it, run away from it, hide it, outsmart it, push it down or make it go away..... We need to heal it and that begins by welcoming it in, living with grace and compassion and feeling all the feels (we sit with our emotions, which is both brutal and beautiful).

Build a life that honors who you are and who you want want to be. It is not a different person, it is already in you. Remove the layers, the layers of doubt, the layers of expectations, the layers of not good enough, the layers of stuff that you have been carrying too long. Drop the weight, it is not yours to carry, know you can hand that over and in doing so, you open up space for renewal.

You are here to love. You are here to love others, but we can''t love others fully until we love ourselves. Loving ourselves is listening to ourselves. At HIPP, we lead with love.

We lead our families, our lives, our careers/work, our communities and each other. Not everyone is in this space, so stop trying to win others over, you do you and the like minded people will be there with you. Boundaries are Beautiful and self care is the key to how women live, because if we don't take care of our foundation, we are not going to be able to build the life we want. Rome was not built in a day and neither were you.

This work takes time. This work takes a positive mindset and attitude. This work is based on love, and it is hard in a world of fear and uncertainty. Don't let that harden you. Stand with me, hands on HIPP. Let's lock arms, standing in our power, in our worthiness, in our truth, in our love. There is enough room for everyone to stand, in fact, the more we collaborate and support each other, the more we RISE. #pamguyerspeaks #livinghipp #redefinehowwelive #retreat #restandrestore #pesonaldevelopment #leadwithlove #progress #positivity #love